This is how you can improve your decision making skills

This is how you can improve your decision making skillsThis is how you can improve your decision making skillsA lot of my clients really struggle with how to become better at making decisions. Many people delegate decision making to other people in their lives because they dont want to to take responsibility for a decision that results in a ends negative outcome.I encourage people to recognize that decisions are not permanent. There are no right or wrong decisions. Decisions can be changeable. One of the only high-risk decisions in life is whether to have a child because thats something that you know is a high level of commitment. However, most decisions you can change as long as you have the creativity of thought and the flexibility of mind to make a decision about how to problem solve your way out of a choice.So, when you take the pressure off of yourself that theres a right or wrong way to do something, that should liberate you from the challenge of trying to determine if theres a right way or a wrong way to do something.Theres no right or wrong wayThe idea that theres a right or wrong way to do something comes from the environment that we live in where people like validation for the choices that they make. We are encouraged to do certain things according to a specific group mentality. But that doesnt mean that the group mentality is right. Most of the time the group, whether its family members or our friends, are guessing. Yet we tend to listen to the group mentality because it validates our decisions. That doesnt mean that they are right, it just means that they have guessed about a particular way of doing something and that it makes us more comfortable if we have a consensus.Heres an example. If you put 10 people in a room and you ask them to choose choice A or B, five people will choose A and five people will choose B. Of the people that chose A, three people will be satisfied with that choice, two people wont and will wish they had chosen B. Of the five people that chose B, three people will be satisfied with having chosen B, two people wont, and those two people will wish they had chosen A.The people that were dissatisfied with their choice will need to have the problem solving skills to figure out, with creativity of thought, and flexibility of mind, how to create an approximation of the original choice or a close approximation of the original choice that they could have made. It may not be an exact replica of the original choice that they could have made, but a close approximation of the original choice that they could have made. They will try to find another option to get close to the original choice and then pursue that direction until the next decision.This is what making your own decisions does for youWhen people departure to make decisions on their own, it builds self-esteem and self-confidence. The first step in building your self-confidence is to realize that you cant make a mistake as long as youre trying to be authenti c with yourself. This is because theres really not a right or wrong. You can go back and make changes to the decision that you are making. The next time you have to make a decision, try timing yourself. This will show you that it is possible to make a decision in a short period of time.So for small decisions, like choosing where to go to eat or choosing a movie, give yourself five or ten minutes. And for larger decisions, you take a little bit of a longer period of time. The more decisions you make, youll notice that it becomes easier and easier. There there really is no negative outcome thats coming from authentically making a choice. I hope that this is helpful and that youll learn to make decisions easier and with a more liberated feeling.Through her platform, Sustainable Life Satisfaction,and web series,A Path To Sustainable Life Satisfaction,Dr. Guttman motivates people to believe in their personal effectiveness in the world. Learn more atguttmanpsychology.comThis post welches originally published on Quora.com.

Wearing this retro fashion look this spring will be the ultimate power move

Wearing this retro fashion look this spring will be the ultimate power moveWearing this retro fashion look this spring will be the ultimate power moveIn these post-MeToo days, with a slew of women just voted into Congress, a skirt or a dress just doesnt seem like enough of a votum anymore. Pants are blah, and pantsuits are, well so over.Enter the jumpsuit the sassy, utilitarian statement garment thats making a comeback this spring and summer. It has hints of World War II when women went to work in the factories and the rallying cry was We can do it A dressed-up version is perfectly suitable for both the office and the woman who wants to shake things up a little.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreThe first-ever jumpsuit also called the boiler suit was created in 1919 as a garment for parachuters. It was worn by factory women during the second world war, and by the 60s and 70s, b ecome a fashion item.Jumpsuits were all over the Spring 2019 runways. Hermes, Giambattista Valli, Stella McCartney, Dries van Noten, Isabel Marant, Alberta Ferretti, Celine, Jil Sander, and Louis Vuitton all turned out a version of one, from classic black and white to bright red to lime.Heres a few for you to consider.This silk charmeuse wide-leg version from Zero+ Maria Cornejois an elegant work solution.Zero + Maria CornejoKnown for the wrap dress, Diane von Furstenberg also makes a wrap jumpsuit.Diane von FurstenbergALCs linen-blend jumpsuit with cuffed sleeves exudes elegance and could easily be worn to a work event.BarneysRachel Comeys crepe jumpsuit is a workwear classicSaks Fifth AvenueTaharis tie-waist crop-leg jumpsuitNordstromThis striped jumpsuit, also from Zero + Maria Cornejo, is perfect for summer Fridays at work, or weekends.Zero + Maria CornejoFrames boilersuit is rough and ready for those embracing the utilitarian look.BarneysZinkas charming cotton jumpsuit is for w eekend wear.BarneysYou might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

How to Prepare for an Internship

How to Prepare for an InternshipHow to Prepare for an InternshipAlthough you might have missed the deadline to apply for a fall internship, its not too early to start thinking about snagging an internship for the spring. If you dont have any experience, you can use this semester to beef up your resume so youll be a star candidate when applying.Research companiesIn 2015 were blessed with the almighty search tool Google- use it. Look up companies that youre interested in and find out everything you can about them. What types of internship programs do they offer? What qualities do they look for? What do current and past intern LinkedIn profiles look like? Follow the companys or employees social media pages and dont be scared to engage with them in a thoughtful manner. They might not engage back, but at least you will show an enthusiasm for the company and its work. By doing this, you can get a sense of the companys brand and if its what you really want out of an internship.Build up your experience without having to get a jobAfter youve researched the company and the types of internships it offers, youll know what skills to cultivate this semester. If its looking for leadership, you can join a student group youre passionate about and consider running for a position on its executive board. If it wants someone tech-savvy, you can learn how to build your own website or app from a number of online resources like CodeAcademy.com. Are you looking at a social media internship? Find ways to create an engaged following on your social media accounts.Reach out to your networkAs a college student your network is definitely bigger than you think. Take advantage of your colleges career center and reach out to your professors about possible internships. Also, see if your colleges alumni work at your target companies. It doesnt hurt to send alumni a thoughtful message expressing your interest in their company and requesting a quick phone chat or coffee date. Start earlyStarting re search on companies and their internship programs that youre interested in early will guarantee that you dont miss any deadlines and youll have a good sense of what to expect. Cultivating your skills now, like creating your own professional web page, will make your mora attractive than another candidate who scrambled last minute to create one. If you reach out to your network now versus later, youll develop more meaningful relationships than someone who is desperate around internship application season. With a little bit of effort this fall semester, youll be able to snag the internship of your dreams next spring.